Start Some New Habits – Heal Your Broken Heart
It only take three weeks to start a new habit and that means it also only takes three weeks to stop any bad ones. If you are still moping over your breakup and consumed over every little thing that wrong – STOP!!! We have to get up and start living again although it is quite typical to feel crushed for a long time after losing someone we care about. Now put the junk food away and get out of those ugly old sweatpants, it’s time to begin some new habits and try something new to mend your broken heart!
The very first thing we have to do is put an end to all the terrible habits we are doing now. Are you constantly checking Facebook or Twitter to see what is going on in your ex’s life? Are you casually bringing them up in conversations with friends you still share? We want to know if our ex feels the same hurt we do, just as we want them to miss us as much as we miss them. You need to make a huge effort to break these habits so you can heal. Whenever you are feeling that pull to check online or to bring up your ex, pinch yourself. Not lightly but hard! By becoming aware of these bad habits you can start to stop yourself from doing them.
Now that our arms are all red from pinching ourselves we need to start some new habits to help distract us from the ones we are trying to break. We need to begin to feel good about ourselves again so the first habit we should get into is complementing ourselves. I know this will feel weird at first but sit down and write 10 things about yourself that are good. It could be as simple as this:
My 10 best attributes:
- I really look good in…
- I’m also very…
- My … really kicks butt!
- I really love my…
- I’m really good at…
- I’m very…
- I have great…
- One of my best skills is/are…
- I’ve very good at…
- My … is/are my best feature.
Now every morning you are going to get up and look in the mirror and repeat these 10 things and don’t squint your face up as you do it, act like you mean it! You are going to begin to like yourself again the more you say it, because the more you say it the more you will believe it.
Next we are going to join something new. Is there something you have always wanted to try? Running, rock climbing, creative writing or learning to cook? Joining something will help you get your self confidence back and met new people, and you can learn a new skill along the way. These people are going to get to know you as “single” you, not “couple” you.
Trying something new and beginning new habits will give you something else to concentrate on beside what is going on with your ex. For 21 days try these 2 things and see how much better you begin to feel. Are you feeling more confident? Are you thinking about your ex less often? We are just beginning to retrain how we feel about ourselves and healing our broken heart takes time.
